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孩子这些显性的行动并不那末简略，面前藏着更深层的奥秘。那末，这就须要家长仔细地去发明他们做出这些行动的面前的意思，追根溯源地找到启事，能力完全处置题目。但是，恩诺教导发明良多怙恃恰好相反，用了一些他们觉得对的弊端体例来处置，如许反而让环境变得加倍糟。

闻名心思学家珍·尼尔森博士在她的有关孩童正面教导的著述中指出：孩童的两大首要须要是归属感和确认本身的首要性。

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GOUCAIZHONGXIN:SHOUYAOYOUYIXIA4ZHONGWUCHAXINGDONG：

GOUCAIZHONGXIN:①JIFAZHUZHONG（NIMENKUAILAIKANKANWOYA）

GOUCAIZHONGXIN:②QUANLIFENDOU（NIYUEBUYAOWOGANSHA，WOPIANYAOZUO）

GOUCAIZHONGXIN:③PENGJIXINSI（NIMENBULIWO，WOKUJINIMENKAN）

GOUCAIZHONGXIN:④ZIWOLIUFANG（GUIZHENGWOYEBUSHOUYAO，MEISHENMEHAOJINLIDE）

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